I'm Not a "Truther"...
...and you can too.
Is there something in the stars?
Humans are strange creatures…
You know about “social contracts,” right?
You have an implied “social contract” with everyone in your life.
Partner, kids, parents, grocer at the market, randoms on FB, etc…
The closer we are to someone the stronger is the “contract” on an emotional level.
The “contract” part though offers some intrigue:
No one signs anything on paper; it’s “just” a silent agreement we all figuratively nod our heads to as we go about life.
These “contracts” consist largely of unexpressed expectations regarding the role we play and how we conduct ourselves in relation to the other party.
Doing what I do publicly since getting on socials in 2009, I’ve seen many of these little social contracts of mine go up in flames 😆 - sometimes in pretty spectacular fashion; other times more of a fizzle.
As a general rule, the more explosive events result from someone being triggered by something I’ve said that happens to clash with a belief or identification they’re egoically attached to.
(I’m fun like that.)
Recently—following a brief exchange—a person from my list with a breathtaking lack of emotional iQ blocked me and immediately publicly posted an attempt at slandering me, saying, and I grin writing this:
“Brendan Murphy is a fake truther who unfriends you if you question his conspiracy theories.”
😝
I laugh because I don’t think of myself as a “truther” and don’t want to be viewed as such (partly because it seems about half the “truther” population consists of congenital morons).
So being a “fake” version of something I don’t want to be is kinda funny.
I guess I AM a fake truther after all LOL…
It’s also amusing that this person chose to use weaponised CIA mind control terminology as part of their slander in effectively calling me a “conspiracy theorist.”
Which “theory” they were referring to remains a mystery… 🥴
Apparently they didn’t like that I wasn’t on board with their circular logic and belief system around a contentious issue originating from 2020... *wink*
What’s weird though is their representation of events had nothing to do with the reality.
Somehow they managed to make THEMSELVES the victim, and I became the “baddie”. I guess that’s standard for narcissists…
They probably should have called me a poopy face too for good measure. 😂
Thing is, part of MY social contract with people who are supposedly grownass emotionally mature adults is that they CONDUCT themselves as such…
…and when they don’t/can’t do that, I simply remove them from my space.
That’s all.
No drama, no personal attacks, I just get on with it.
And so after this person once again demonstrated (for the umpteenth time over some years) a complete inability to act with humility or civility, I created a boundary and decided cutting them loose was the only thing to do... 🤷🏻♂️
So, without further ado, I quietly unfriended old mate and got on with my evening. I didn’t have an emotional tantrum and publicly slander them; didn’t send a “fuck you” DM; I just got on with living.
✅ I’m a writer, not a therapist.
If you have trouble “adulting” it’s not my problem to fix.
I’ve had this exact thing happen before and it doesn’t take a psychology wiz to figure out what’s going on.
It’s not my job—or yours—to coach people into emotional maturity—and trust me when I say the “truth movement” is riddled with the emotionally retarded (and people with chronic listening deficits 😂)…
…which is why I like to distance myself from this cultish entity wherever I can.
I stand for freedom and truth but I won’t dumb myself down or self-censor to appease developmentally delayed “truthers” with behavioural issues.
Let’s be honest: There are only so many chances someone deserves.
And you don’t owe anyone anything at the end of the day—not even a reaction or an explanation.
People who persistently demand you tolerate an abusive or hostile dynamic or “contract” are just toxic, and anyone with a modicum of self-respect and self-worth will do the only thing that makes sense: cut ‘em loose and move on. ✅
Save your time and energy for people worthy of it.
They won’t like that one bit, but it’s not your job to emotionally manage infantile adults who want to drag you into their demented little sandpit.
Sean Whalen recently observed:
‘a lot of your drama and BS in life is simply because folks have different language and terms in their “social agreement” with you. They want YOU to act according to their level of instability, and when you don’t they lash out. People think you NEED to do something because of their “agreement” and the reality is you don’t, the assumption of the social contract is on them, not you.’
Nailed it. 🎯
You’re under no obligation to match someone else’s instability or self-awareness deficit.
You are free to just quietly move on and leave them behind.
It’s better to be in integrity with yourself and your own dignity than it is to bend to the whims of the unstable and immature.
Most of your “friends” on FB or IG aren’t friends at all, just digital contacts, most of whom know basically nothing about you and have no real loyalty, especially not once their unresolved shadow material gets triggered.
And if THEY haven’t chosen to expand or grow and do the inner work as you move forward, the fact is it’s not on you to fulfil what they demand (whether implicitly or overtly).
Part of adulting is knowing when it’s time to leave people in their sandpit (soiled diapers and all). 💩
Anyhoo!
Question for you:
What does it tell you about someone’s maturity level in blocking someone and THEN publicly slandering them so they can’t respond?
Hmmm… 🤔
Stay tuned for my next “conspiracy theory”… 🤡
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This post was very timely for me, thank you.
I find it difficult to explain to people why I don’t want to be around them anymore. Well, I’m not obligated to explain. I’m not obligated to. I’m not obligated to. I will keep repeating it until I get it.
If I have to lower my standards in order to participate in a relationship with someone or a group of people, I’m not interested. How about you raise your standards a little? Why do people insist on taking everyone down around them. Lift yourselves up for goodness sakes!
Actually, you have responded. That's the way I also handle similar situations.
It irritates me, when someone claims to tell the "truth," because human cognition is insufficient to know the truth:
https://rayhorvaththesource.substack.com/p/there-is-a-new-word-that-makes-me